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Mistakes to Avoid as a Mormon

Mistakes to Avoid as a Mormon

Some of the crazy rules we were told to follow as a mormon, and what happens when you leave.
This is the introduction to my series about how Mormonism is damaging in a way that goes unnoticed by most of it’s members.

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50 Comments

  1. James Gotwalt on February 27, 2020 at 1:43 pm

    Mistakes to avoid as a Mormon

    1. Never become a Mormon

    If you made the mistake like me and joined

    2. Get out before it’s too late

    3. Don’t try to make sense of it, because it makes no sense. Get out



  2. Robbie C on February 27, 2020 at 1:44 pm

    Number one mistake to avoid as a Mormon? Don’t be a Mormon.



  3. Rick McGhee on February 27, 2020 at 1:45 pm

    True story. I went over a friends house to spend the night. He was a bishops son, we were 13. He broke open the Sears catalog (black and white) and went straight to the bra section. That night changed me. After seeing boobs, I had sex at 15. I liked it. Then I spent the next 10 years having sex with over 400 women. I was in the Army, so it was easy to get laid. Looking back, if he wouldn’t have showed me the black and white pictures of bras, it’s possible that I would have saved myself for my wife. Damn….Sears catalog!



  4. 18billions on February 27, 2020 at 1:46 pm

    how many wives did Brigham young and Joseph have? they are the people mormons worship.



  5. geonerd on February 27, 2020 at 1:47 pm

    Mormons make such a big deal about how your spirit is so blessed to come down and experience a physical body. But then they do everything they can to suffocate the sensations that body provides. Sexuality is "Of the Devil" and is pathologically suppressed, and those godawful garments function as a portable sensory deprivation chamber!



  6. Eleanor Jolley on February 27, 2020 at 1:51 pm

    I haven’t watched your other uploads, but how do you feel about being a Mormon?
    Do you choose to be one?



  7. Shane Hall on February 27, 2020 at 1:52 pm

    Haha this is funny my household is nothing like this and neither is most of the people I know but there are still a few that are that way and most Mormons I know think that it’s extremely weird



  8. Boxing Life on February 27, 2020 at 1:54 pm

    Don’t masturbate!! I always felt so guilty growing up! Since I was twelve, im 26 and im glad I finally decided to leave the church 🙏



  9. 100,100 subs With no videos on February 27, 2020 at 1:54 pm

    Used to be a Mormon… now I’m an atheist



  10. Marilyn Mesa on February 27, 2020 at 1:55 pm

    Wow good points



  11. Mark on February 27, 2020 at 1:55 pm

    But my girlfriend and I can still bagpipe, right?



  12. Kaeble on February 27, 2020 at 1:59 pm

    Only a mormon would be naive enough to preach Joseph Smith as a prophet……how can you get so lost and practice cult behaviors?.
    Wearing magic underwear, magic rocks and seeing stones, strange rituals where you mske arm gestures and actual freemasonery handshakes, the veil in itself is blasphemous….i could go on and on



  13. strandedstarfish on February 27, 2020 at 2:02 pm

    I don’t know where you got all these rules basically becasue I’m a convert and I’ve never heard of some of these. I believe these are a Utah Mormon thing, because in Iowa it’s not like this.



  14. bellanewfie on February 27, 2020 at 2:03 pm

    It was exhausting being Mormon the church their leaders tell members how to live to be Tru happiness yet Utah as well as other towns have the highest suicide & mental illness the crazy thing those who have left the Mormon church become happier leaving their best life a peaceful life people who leave the Church don’t leave the Church to live a wild crazy life the live a life with prease and noone telling that no matter how good you do it is never enough the church is big in shaming & guilting it’s members it is no wonder why the church members men & woman having to be on enxity depression & other medications, living the church was the best choice I’ve ever made I live a peaceful quiet life reading the Bible daily and feel closes to God more than ever in my life…it took me a lifetime to find full happiness, pease, joy outside the church I’m so happy.😊



  15. starchief5 on February 27, 2020 at 2:05 pm

    Living a "thank you" life (for God’s marvelous grace) is a joy. Living a "have to" life (or He will not extend His grace to you) is a job.



  16. Mary Brown on February 27, 2020 at 2:06 pm

    You nailed it! I grew up with inactive parents but they still had us follow a lot of these rules and after about 17 yrs I got super active and married in the temple just like I was supposed too. We followed these rules and made our kids follow these when little but luckily we left mormonism around the time our oldest was turning 8.



  17. Tyson Hamblin on February 27, 2020 at 2:06 pm

    Mistake #1: being Mormon



  18. kkheflin3 on February 27, 2020 at 2:06 pm

    Born in the "covenant" 1954 and left in 1992. You did a great list. I could add about thirty pages! Figured out once I had spent about 50,000 hours dedicated to church activity. Not to mention thousands of dollars in tithing. Glad you got out young!



  19. maxwell on February 27, 2020 at 2:09 pm

    Why is UTAH IS KNOWN AS…
    https://youtu.be/NW9GUGvkQh4
    THE FRAUD CAPITAL OF THE WORLD
    Watch DAVE explain it and the $8 billion fraud.



  20. NP P on February 27, 2020 at 2:11 pm

    also, you forgot to mention… Most teen mormons like me (and im sure MOST pubertal teens) are horny. and we are taught to not masturbate. its hard because what am I supposed to do with these PRIMAL URGES?! resisting my desires are useless. As a 24/7 horny male, you wouldnt understand a teen guy going through puberty! I take Chasteberry to diminish my sex drive because I worry a lot about sinning



  21. Jaxxon Colledge on February 27, 2020 at 2:15 pm

    I’m so glad I found your channel. As an ex mormon in Utah, it is hard being alienated by all your lifelong peers and leaders. So nice to find somewhere where I dont feel like such an outcast



  22. Andrew Iskorostensky on February 27, 2020 at 2:16 pm

    Poor people. Legalistic unhappy life. Sorry to see…..



  23. Mark on February 27, 2020 at 2:17 pm

    Another rule that mormons are forced to practice: Confuse a rostrum and a podium



  24. Dandeeman26 on February 27, 2020 at 2:17 pm

    😆😆😆😆never listen to someone who hates The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter day Saints. Oh oops I failed at that one good thing I was bored out of my mind with her half truths and twisted truths.



  25. 90percent on February 27, 2020 at 2:18 pm

    When i moved to Utah in the 90s for school sometimes i didn’t wanna be Mormon anymore. Then i left in 2000 and I’m Mormon again. A progressive Mormon. I go church and all but i don’t let these rules squeeze me and hold me down



  26. Matt Madara on February 27, 2020 at 2:19 pm

    How stupid are these mormons to believe in this shit and follow this shity rules. Damn damn damn damn damn



  27. Elaine Beard on February 27, 2020 at 2:20 pm

    Get a real. Life.



  28. September Quinn on February 27, 2020 at 2:22 pm

    My 60 year old parents still pretty much only watch Disney and kids movies because all the other stuff is bad. Smh



  29. Jeff Webb on February 27, 2020 at 2:22 pm

    So glad to be out of this Cult. Was in for over 30 years been out for about 10 years now and would never go back.



  30. mopthermopther on February 27, 2020 at 2:22 pm

    Coffee ? No.
    Capital Punishment ? ‘fire’ away



  31. JonesiBoy Beastmode on February 27, 2020 at 2:24 pm

    It all comes down to the household AKA parents.



  32. randel hanson on February 27, 2020 at 2:25 pm

    I was taught that the only thing worse than sex outside of marriage is murder



  33. Eleanor Jolley on February 27, 2020 at 2:26 pm

    Sounds like a religion made from fear and want for power/control.



  34. Hermie Griffiths on February 27, 2020 at 2:26 pm

    Bethany, but what did the Holy Spirit assure you of, what promptings did you receive from the Holy Spirit if with regard to most of what you mentioned. Do you feel totally free on the inside? Just asking.



  35. Justin Masterson on February 27, 2020 at 2:27 pm

    You are telling the truth no easy be8ng a mormon my kids stopped going the first chance the got I don’t blame them at all one of the bishops pissed of my son of course there’s always the same if you don’t want to be offended then don’t go to the LDS Church



  36. Fernando Santos on February 27, 2020 at 2:27 pm

    I couldn’t keep up with the video, some things are just really dumb things people might have said, it’s sad they are part of church culture, but truth is that people say really dumb things everywhere. The comment section in youtube videos is a good example of that, I have to be the first to recognize I say dumb things as well. Apart from those, there are some things that are actually good counsels, and that are objectively good ideas. The dating ones for example, altough of course they are way more complex than the way you described them. I didn’t really watched the whole video, but I would just say that it is true that the Church might not be for everybody in the sense that the vast majority of people are comfortable not striving to make life as good as it can be, in a collecitve and individual sense. Some are not able to endure the suffering, ironies and wrongness that are part of reality and existance, though I do not understand why some limit those things as only particular of a religious group, as if suffering, dumb tings to be said, and mistakes were not part of all relationships we could make with all kinds of people, including relationships involving just ourselves.
    Most important thing to be said, is that we must be brave to make the distinction of what is good, and pursuing that, even if it is ridiculized. There are good ideas and there are bad ideas, why do some get so mad when others aim at the best ideas? Another must, is to be not forget to be kind and comprehensive when others fall short, and when we fall short as well.
    In conclusion if anyone wants a cartoon version of what the Church is, here you have. If anyone wants to understand what the church really stands for, that is an individual labor, it involves meditation, as well as application. Something I would recommend.



  37. Sweetness and Light on February 27, 2020 at 2:30 pm

    I think that they the Latter Day Saints owe me an apology for ostracizing me based on visious lies and gossip, maybe from a jealous stepsister. But, I’m not going to hold my breath.



  38. maxwell on February 27, 2020 at 2:31 pm

    Please refer to them as the
    “FALSE PROPHETS and FALSE APOSTLES.”
    Repetition is one of the 5 laws of hypnosis.



  39. Inlightment on February 27, 2020 at 2:32 pm

    So inaccurate



  40. John on February 27, 2020 at 2:32 pm

    “Rather find out you had died” you grew up in a harsher house then mine. Never heard that one before.



  41. Braxton Bean on February 27, 2020 at 2:34 pm

    Coffee is addicting. The church is about giving you freedom!!! Like ‘merica!!



  42. Ken Olson on February 27, 2020 at 2:34 pm

    Working full-time for your own Glory in the afterlife, instead of God’s glory in this life, takes a lot of effort.



  43. Jimmy Nguyen on February 27, 2020 at 2:35 pm

    Yeah I’m going to hell I’ve broke all these Mormon rules being a Mormon is so hard😬



  44. Inlightment on February 27, 2020 at 2:35 pm

    This is all BS



  45. Bethany Kay on February 27, 2020 at 2:35 pm

    Did you follow any odd rules in your religion growing up? I’d love to hear your story too.
    Want to see my other videos about how Mormonism is actually Damaging it’s members? Watch the new playlist here:
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nlvIdjb9WuU&list=PLZzU83QWO5fMMsL309KYfAffkPRSbnpSe



  46. September Quinn on February 27, 2020 at 2:35 pm

    I actually like the no coffee thing. I can’t stand coffee. But my dad still thinks green tea is bad, even though its one of the healthiest things you can drink. He says science just hasn’t caught up yet. We were also not allowed to drink caffeinated sodas.

    I wish I had stayed with the no alcohol after I left the church though. While I don’t think there is anything wrong per say with drinking, I wish I had never started it.



  47. Nadia Kelly on February 27, 2020 at 2:36 pm

    I was a Mormon at one point.the men controlled every aspect of my life my brothers would make me do there chores and get me ready to be a wife it was “wife in training jobs” me and my sister worked to hard around the house.i fell like we were closer to flds then lds we did listen to Russell but also Warren Jeffs he had a hair swept up high and some times were Prairie dresses but most of the time it was a hair in a bun with a baggy t-shirt with a long skirt and some tennis goes with long socks that went up to my knee I am still mormon but now I just be who I want to be.i still do dress modest but now I’m not just a Mormon 9 year old robot now I’m a 11-year-old of the personality



  48. Darren Neff on February 27, 2020 at 2:38 pm

    There are so many over generalizations, exaggerations, and defamations in this video. Some of the rules you cited aren’t even stated in the church. Most of the examples are from pseudo self interpretations from members that some take for fact. Just because some members take some of the rules way to far, way beyond what’s actually given in the church, doesn’t mean its doctrine. Also, to say that the entirety of the church is a cult based off some arbitrary instances that for some reason remind you of cults is way off base. That’s like saying that salads are good and so are cakes, so salads are unhealthy. Dadgum, videos like this crack me up.



  49. Bones Jones on February 27, 2020 at 2:39 pm

    i was once a mormon but now I’m agnostic. And if god exists I don’t think he gives a rats ass about any religion.



  50. Kathryn Neil on February 27, 2020 at 2:40 pm

    I’ve always been told it was just me!!